I haven't updated this blog in a while...we've been busy getting things ready, working on the house and the nursery. We've traveled again to see "C" October 30th. We got down there again in time to take her to a movie, do a little shopping and go out to dinner. She was expecting her dad to come visit her the next day which was his birthday. She really wanted to buy him a birthday present and had saved a little bit of her money. We helped her buy him some cologne and a card. She really wanted for him to visit but he did not show up. After talking with her later, she said she wasn't surprised, but had hoped he would've come. I know she was disappointed. I think this is one thing she wants differently for "our" son. It was a good visit, but emotional. At dinner, she became teary-eyed and just said, "this is really hard". We didn't know what else to say other than, we know and we're here for you.
Truth is, we don't know. We don't know what it is like to consider giving up a baby, We don't know what it is like to have virtually no family support. It is difficult for us in a different way. The waiting has been difficult. The anxiety and nervousness, wondering would she change her mind, will we be good parents, the overwhelming feeling of "are we ready?", etc, etc...Adoption is hard, it is painful at times, but in the end this experience has brought together two families who share the love for one little baby boy. We love "C" like she is family, because she is.
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